How Is My Sex Life Your Concern?


Somewhere in the world, there’s a forty year old man sleeping with a 17 year old girl.  Are you concerned?  What if I told you that he has been sleeping with her for the past 3 years?  Are you now concerned?  What if I said that she’s in fact his daughter?  Are you very concerned now?  Angry even?  Then, might I add that he also compels her to entertain his friends?  If you’re not outraged by now, you should really question your humanity, or at least get a mental health examination!


At different points in my portrayal, different sorts of people would have been concerned. You might find that your experience of sexuality numbed you of any emotion until the last piece was painted. However, you finally had cause for concern – Child Abuse and Exploitation!

Aside from our experience of sexuality, our knowledge, understanding, values and beliefs would have dictated at which point we were offended by this man. Is it any of our business who the average person sleeps with, if it is consensual and legitimate? Umm… It really does depend on your definition and understanding of consensual and legitimate.

A 17 year old girl could be sleeping with a 29 year old man she met at a party. Legitimately, according to the law (in most lands) the man is doing no wrong, if the girl consented. But what if they had an arrangement… That he would pay her school fees if she slept with him? Is that real consent? Was the girl coerced or is she making an informed decision for her life? Are you concerned about the choice this girl is making? Do you think her parents might be concerned?

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It isn’t all that clear cut is it? Liberal feminists argue for a woman’s choice to prostitute herself for a living. But the consequences of that choice means that the sex trade will never come to an end, and the sex slave who hasn’t made the empowered choice to sell herself remains exploited, while the liberated escort earns her living…

So, what am I saying here? Your sex life may be private to you, but it doesn’t stop me from being concerned about what it is doing to you now, what it will do to you in the long run, and how it is impacting how the world is viewing legitimacy and consensual sex. Your liberation may come at a price for my unborn daughter who may end up being born in a world where nobody will be moved by the actions of the man I earlier described!!!

You may disagree, but I believe that if chastity was still upheld as a value today, we would have:

Less teenage pregnancies, Less abortions, less cheating husbands/wives (for lack of the other woman/man)Less broken homes (and single mothers)Less troubled children (dealing with the impact of divorce and anger between their parents due to marital unfaithfulness)Less child sexual abuse/exploitation, less sexual offences (including rape and incest) Less prostitution and pornography, less  sexually transmitted diseases (particularly HIV/AIDS)! More happy homes!

And I’m sure there’s more. I can think of another already – a better self image among women and girls!

But this isn’t why I keep harping on about celibacy, abstinence and sexual morality. This is just my way of letting you know that there’s a basis for my concern! The ultimate reason I teach these things is because I’m a Christian.

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I know you’re confused by the many Christians you see who do not seem to care about sexual morality. Their lack of adherence to this principle and practice of Christianity does not undermine the Truth, only their witness. I do believe the Christian standard was put in place to save us from all these problems and the sexual confusion that results from promiscuity and sexual immorality.

The bottom line though, I want everyone to come to the knowledge of Christ, and be saved from the coming judgment and destruction. That is a post for another day! I believe God has the answers to the world’s problems, and one of these answers is abstinence. So that is why I stand strong on my Christian beliefs and teach as many as will hear that they should abstain from sexual involvement outside marriage.

This post was inspired by a friend of mine on Facebook, who, as an atheist, objected to my views on THE PETTY THIEF AND THE ARMED ROBBER. Thanks for the inspiration to go deeper into this. Please keep your contributions coming!

Image via 360Nobs

Written by UFUOMAEE
Article earlier published on Naked Convos

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4 Responses
  • Ufuomaee
    February 18, 2016

    Thanks so much for sharing my post! I’m glad you enjoyed it 🙂 I think you might also like a story that is trending on my blog,, currently. It is called The Church Girl. It has seven parts. I would love your thoughts on that, as it deals with sexual abuse and prostitution too.

    God bless you!

    • Olajide
      February 21, 2016

      Checked… I must say you are really doing a nice job there at more grace

      • Ufuomaee
        February 21, 2016

        Thanks for visiting 🙂 I appreciate your encouragement.

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