The road to divorce hell is paved with good intentions. So instead of worrying about all the things you’re doing wrong or opportunities you’re missing out on, just relax. You’re not falling behind; it’s the deadline that’s off. Here are five reasons why women should not try to find a husband while in their 20s: 1) There’s no rush It used to be that people lived to be 50 years old, so it makes sense that, back in the day, everyone married early. Now, with the average life expectancy in America nearing 80 years, there’s no reason to have the infamous age “30” as a ticking time bomb by which all women must be married and pregnant, or else. If other societal deadlines, like moving out, finishing college and finding your first job, have all been pushed back, why not marriage? Many will argue that if you want to have children, your fertility decreases with age. However, modern science has also advanced to the point where not only is it possible to preserve your eggs, but successful “geriatric” pregnancies are carried out every day, as well. Ladies, we have time to do it all — 82.2 years, to be exact. 2) 20-somethings are constantly changing While it would be nice to have a partner grow with you and endure the ups and downs of this life-changing decade by your side, more often than not what happens is that you grow in opposite directions and are no longer the people you each originally fell in love with. This is fine, and a perfectly normal part of life and love, but it’s one that’s made it exponentially harder when you’re married and seeking a divorce. There’s no reason why you can’t date someone exclusively, have a long engagement or otherwise be committed without rushing to take that final leap. 3) There is a double standard for marriage Ever notice how men don’t seem to be worried about being married by 30? They can be bachelors well into their 40s without raising a brow, aside from their own mothers’ gentle prodding about pending grandchildren. Women, however, are judged not just by our mothers, but also by strangers who meet us and automatically feel compelled to refer us to online dating sites, lecture us on the dangers of the aforementioned geriatric pregnancies or assume something must be wrong with us if we’re “still single.” For some reason, our reproductive status and progress on landing a man is cause for public concern. The complete story is on RADAR.
Credits: – Elite Daily and RADAR.