Unfortunately, at some point, we all have an
irreversible, regrettable one-night stand
we wish we could erase.
We can all blame tequila for the sloppy
bathroom hookup, hooking up with a
friend’s ex, making out with coworker
or thinking someone’s a “10” only to realize
in the morning that he or she ranks far
While none of these tainted trophies are of
good nature, you can only live and learn
So, taking on one of the biggest fck ups
listed above, I’d like to explore how one
might recover after sleeping with a friend’s
ex and vice versa.
THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE, SO
Eventually, the truth will rear its ugly head,
so it’s better to be straight up and clear your
conscience as early on as possible. As much
as this may hurt the people involved, you
have to put yourself first.
Fess up, and lie in the bed you’ve made. If
there is hope for you and your friend or
partner to rekindle the flame, telling the
truth and clearing the air will allow you to
start fresh and define how well you can
forgive and provide each other with
If this person is unable to deal with the
truth, then maybe there’s a reason for that,
and your relationship was never meant to
work out, whether a friendship or love.
IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO, SOMETIMES
THREE — REMEMBER THAT.
So, why does one side of the party usually
always get the blame from those looking in?
People will always have their opinions —
that’s what makes the world go ’round.
However, one party should never be solely
to blame. Neither side is less guilty than the
FOR THE GUYS: REMEMBER THE BRO
CODE. BRUSH UP ON SOME KNOWLEDGE
TO AVOID REPEATING THE PAST.
The universal bro code. Need I say more?
The unwritten, and sometmes hilariously
written (blogged about), guidelines that all
guys are supposedly ingrained from birth to
For those of you who have committed
treason against your fellow bro, code #28
goes a little something like this:
A bro should never, under any circumstance,
sleep with another bro’s ex-girlfriend. A bro
may proceed to make moves on another bro’s
failed target (he got rejected), but only after
asking permission first.
If the bro declines your invitation to bust some
moves, you must adhere to his wishes and find
a new target.
HEY FRIEND, WHERE’D YA GO? FRANKLY
SPEAKING, YOU’LL LOSE MORE THAN
Sleeping with the ex of a friend is,
apparently, amongst the crimes that deserve
the social version of the death penalty.
So don’t be too shocked when your squad
isn’t acting the same, especially the friend
you did the dirty to.
As Gretchen Wieners once said,
Ex-boyfriends are off limits to friends. I mean,
that’s just like, the rules of feminism!
Word of the wise to all you misfits who have
been or may find themselves in this
situation: What’s happened has happened.
You can’t erase it; the choice was yours for
Sure, there’s regret, but it’s what you
wanted at the time, and with choices, comes
consequence. In a few years time, you’ll
realize you have greater fckups to look
forward to, so get ready.
– Sequoia Etti/EliteDaily